what is love?

well, this entry is specially dedicated or in response to one of my friend’s latest entry about BGR and its worth. It seems to me that she is even questioning what love is.

所谓问世间情为何物？

Hahaha….think you have heard this phrase many times in the old Chinese shows and even till today, some people are still asking that. Well, I am certainly not very qualified or expert to talk about this matter but I think I can provide some possible positive notions regarding this topic.

Well, if you read one of my very early posts on the blog, the scientists said that there cannot be love without light, therefore the literal meaning of love at first sight and not the romantic notion suggested by the phrase. According to them there must first be light to fall on the object and be reflected into your eyes, the nerves must then transmit the image captured to the brain. The brain will then decipher the image and then relate it to some memory or thing or just a form of recognition. Given that we have dedicated so much literature, movies, songs etc to encompass or reflect this emotion that so much so intrigues us, is that all it is? Certainly, there are brain activities and hormones that are involved but can you accept that that is all? I can’t. And I don’t think it is.

I will say that it is not. At least we do know that there is love beyond that of the opposite sex (or same sex in the cause of guys and lesbians), certainly, I do think the blind also have those whom they love dearly? Are all blind people unattached then since they can’t have the light being transmitted to their brain?

Love is indeed an emotion of the heart, if you love with your head and not your heart, I think there is something wrong with you. A crush is a moment of emotional fluctuation. Typically, a crush would encompass the situation that one likes another but there is no response from the other party in this state yet. Crushes fade if it does not proceed or develop from there but love doesn’t. What is love then? It certainly isn’t something that can be defined in words or in an essay or in a book otherwise it won’t be an emotion that we are still so caught up with. It certainly is not an illusion unless you are the one who is trying to elude yourself. Remember that entire thing that I was saying about living in denial in one of my earlier posts? To prepare yourself or correctly orientate yourself about what love is or experience it truly, you must be truthfully to yourself. This can be hard for some. Otherwise, even if love is already at your door step, you can still misinterpret it.

I am certainly no counselor about this matter but I can certainly share with you come of the things about love which is very true.

Some people think that the whole courtship thingy is just too troublesome; wasting of time etc and how nice would it be if there is some thing that can help you find your life time partner immediate? Well, that’s how the basis of match making came about, matching you with the most probable person or at least it is a person that will probably have some common interest with you. Well, the thing is that courtship is all so important as it is only through courtship that you learn more about yourself, how you relate to intimacy, how you function in a relationship with your partner or how you handle stuff while being in a relationship. As you learn to learn more about the other person, you also learn about yourself. It is all part and parcel bout growing and gaining experience.

十年修得同船渡，百年修得共枕眠

是你的总就会是你的

天涯何处无方草，何必单恋一朵花

Then, there is also about this thing called fate. Believe it or not it is up to you. Maybe you would want to call it chance. Someone out there is the match for you and you will find the other in time to come for the other will be on the lookout for you. Actually, I would more want to say that if I is meant to be, it is if it isn’t it isn’t. Sometimes, it is easier said then done. I totally understand and an relate to it.

Love is about a kind of giving and never asks for a return for it seems so natural and all right with you that you are giving. Love is also about loving the person as a whole. No one is perfect and so this is even more difficult but it is possible. That’ why couples quarrel at time but remember 夫妻床头吵架床尾合, a little tiff at times can reflect a person’s concern. What is troubling you my friend?


Then you can be surprise that there are some people both man and women who will forgo a long standing friendship for a bgr for in their view, they consider the prospect that the patner is after all a life-long partner, your friends are just friends who will pass or get on with their lives. What is you stand in this? I remember that my sec 4 phy teacher was saying that it was good to be married as if you want to go for a jog, call your partner, their company you will most be likely be assured of. Sometimes, if you think that a partner isn’t at all that important, picture this, when you are alone at home, perhaps on your bed or just doing nothing, you are truly by yourself. Don’t talk about all those friends but loneliness is a scary feeling. You can still feel lonely in the midst of a crowd even if it is a known crowd to you. That is really very terrible. Trust me. Do not that I am not discrediting friendship but showing you its possible limits.

Remember the emails that we always forward? Don’t fall in love if there isn’t anyone to catch you. Open your heart to the possible love that is around you. It need not be bgr but you need not be so sick of it for there is a kind or sweetness that you may find in it. For those who have experience, I think it is most apt to say that it’s a sweetness that cause you to smile from deep inside your heart and you know you certainly feel blessed/happy/you know you are certainly not faking it.

But still, let me eco with you, let nature take its course. You never know what is in store for you when you turn the corner down the street?

Damn that phy pract

Well, thought that I had better do my blogging stuff in the day time to prevet me from using one whole night on it. Like that more productive you know….

Well, I was actually trying to correct some of the grammatical and spelling errors that have occurred in previous few posts but after doing one or two, I gave up because it is just to much….So pardon me for all my past errors. From now on I’ll write my blog in Microsoft word where it is easier to check for errors before copying over. In fact I am already doing that now.

On the last entry, I didn’t actually say much but I have got something to say about that night. The chat with that friend of mine was more on the not very enjoyable side. Well., it was characterized by her usual question or should I say invitation. If you ask around, without fail, every time when you talk to her be it in person, through the phone for through sms, she ALWAYS pop that question. Do you want to come to my church? Yeah, we all understand that it is out of good will that she is asking this but it is totally getting on our nerves because she is always asking. Irritating! Once again, and I did tell her that, I understand what sometimes what my friends used to comment about me or just anyone in the past, you may think that by something is in the best interest of that person but the person may not. I am trying my best to remember that and am certainly trying to learn it well and I certainly see tha meaning behind it. You will never know what is in the best interest for that person except for the person himself or herself. Then there are times whereby something may not seem very right but we do not go and interfere with the doings of others unless it deeply bothers us or is affecting us directly for each to his own or its just that it maybe some lesson that the person rather learn by himself or herself. I don’t think that this can sound more true right? Respect others privacy and decisions to do whatever they like with their lives for it is their lives. Advice you may but do not try to forcefully or bug that person too much. I think that this is what everyone in general wishes of the people around them and I am certainly trying to learn this also.

Well, a short recap about yesterday. I had some scaling in the morning, lunch at home and was at Seng Kang BK with Denise. After that we went to her house to get some money and I accompanied her to the doc’s and we had dinner with her treat. Yesterday night was mainly reading the physics pract handbook for today’s pract.

Talking about today’s pract, damn…..I did the resistor Qn first then some ruler depression vs weight thingy. Really some bad luck as the ruler qn was much longer and I didn’t managed to finish it. I was trying to calculate the Young modulus when I realized that I forgot to calculate the K value that I needed to do the calculation. When I was at it half way, pens down. Great! Then when I was on my way back home, I then remembered that there was one more combination of resistance that I did not do….don’t know whether I will be penalized for that. Think I have enough values on the graph. But the worst thing was that all my values that need to find were all very big.

Well, I don’t think there is anything much that I would want to say. Ok than…will come back another time.

more productive or cheating myself?

Finally I managed to finish Human repro today, is that suppose to be productive or not, I really don't know. Well, I understood the chapter and stuff but memo? Maybe. Or so I thnk? Well, then when I was looking through the essay qns for human repro, I was like shit, I forgot a great deal about the rest of the option booklet, the sexual repro of plants. Damn.....will, look at it again soon, but not now. Got to change my focus over to the practs and pract related chapters for the sciences. Well, after that then I will how lah....

Well, did meet my beau again for while. Then got a little pestered by him in the fun way.

Currnetly, talking with Hui Ying now....will blog another tme

Study study study

More quotes to prom me into studying ....hopes it works you you out there...

If you have studied hard enough and am still worrying....

船到桥头自然直

If you are not studying hard enough, slacking....(like me)

种瓜得瓜，种果得果

学习有如逆水而行，不进则退 （I think)

For those of you who are feeling weary about it all.......

皇天不负苦心人

If you are still sluggish about the onset of mugging

千里之行，始于足下

Now, Go study!!!

Procastinating!!!!

Argh...........I am procrastinanting man, I know so much so that I should be studying right now, mugging my human repro but I am not doing it....procrastinating........It's really hard to sudden start studying if you didn't get it started in the morning. I didn't start this morning as I had a GP paper.

I was like telling myself over the weekend what I wanted to read in preparation for the compo but in the end managed to read only some essay skeletons, outsourcing, the young, globalistaion and a little of science and tech. I was so sure that I will do a science and tech qn till I saw the question...it goes something like this...."Science is orgainised knowledge.Wisdom is organised life" Have we lost wisdom in the pursuit of science? This qn is really made difficult by the words organised and wisdom of which I both do not have enough examples to back up with.... Arrrrgh.... In the end, I did...."If you want to be happy,be" Does happiness seem more elusive in today's world? Initially, I wasn't too sure about the idea of seemingly elusive then I digested that the qn is trying to say that happiness is harder to grasp, real happiness may not be what it seems to be. So I came up with all the reasons in today's world that can count towards a reason to be happy or not happy, suggesting that thre are more reasons to be unhappy than happy for the picture is not so clear cut on the macro view. My overall conclusion is that there is more causes fpr unhappines but since it is something untangible, subjective, and can be scaled to whatever the individual wants, then maybe there is happiness or something like that............

Sigh....then my beau is certainly up to something or am I thinking he is up to something for approximately the third or fourth consecurtive night we didn't managed to chat at night. Hmmm.......I am a very demanding person you know. But my demnds kind of fluctuate to and fro somethimes and it just so happens that right now I wish for more attention. Sigh.....he certainly isn't giving me enough or so I think but yet again, I won't fault him. He certainly has his own things and leisure to do in the hostel, tired or playing with his friends, be it the computer games or mahjong. Anyway, this isn't the first time it is happening and from past experience, I should not make such a big fuss about it so I am trying my best not too.....it's just that he is returning to Beijing in about one month's time for a aspproximately 5 months break or have his training there during the 5 months and I just wished that we could spend as much time even if it is through sms. Sigh, guess poor response to my initiating the chat the past few nights as a good sign also so that I can study. You see, part of me want to chat and the other part of me want to study, the part of me that is bloging write now wants neithr of the 2. confusing right.....maybe and maybe not...........sigh.....

ok, I guessI need to go study now....couldn't say much to do much philosophical thinking as tijme is tight and half the day has not even passed by for today.....Ok then, bye